tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174333506398573874.post5710943703967088511..comments2023-09-12T02:20:32.304-07:00Comments on Unconsummated: DefectiveSad Jewish Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17838326460495637726noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174333506398573874.post-61401402463568868842011-09-02T04:30:32.521-07:002011-09-02T04:30:32.521-07:00Ya, I get those comments too. Strangely, it's ...Ya, I get those comments too. Strangely, it's the ones who mean well that seem to hurt the most. When somebody comes on my site and tells me I'm defective and mentally disturbed and that the world is a better place for the fact that nobody has the misfortune of having to have sex with me, I just laugh. <br /><br />But the ones who say that somehow if I just relaxed and stopped worrying about it then everything would be fine... Well, those are the comments that actually make me feel as if I am defective. Surely I should just be able to decide one day: from now on I will be sexually normal.<br /><br />Anyways... Be you. Live your life to the best of your ability. And thank you for sharing.Vhttp://monstersarcasmrally.typepad.com/30yearoldvirgin/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174333506398573874.post-80039986426829058522011-07-25T16:56:49.000-07:002011-07-25T16:56:49.000-07:00I've been showing your blog to a couple of my ...I've been showing your blog to a couple of my friends because I am so touched by what you're going through yet it's so foreign to me (still single, still a virgin). I sincerely think your blog is one of the greatest out there for besides for being moving, its helpful to lots of people who might be in your situation and feeling embarrassed or helpless about it.Yedid Nefeshhttp://lovesickforg-d.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174333506398573874.post-42096771965439660482011-07-22T21:54:01.413-07:002011-07-22T21:54:01.413-07:00After the last post I was thinking of suggesting t...After the last post I was thinking of suggesting that you disable comments, but I was afraid people would say I was trying to shut down communication. I don't know. While it is good to have feedback and conversation, I think I would get really discouraged to have any kind of controversy if I were posting about something so sensitive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174333506398573874.post-87515136133954067272011-07-22T12:30:17.524-07:002011-07-22T12:30:17.524-07:00I don't know about anyone else but I wasn'...I don't know about anyone else but I wasn't trying to "pick on your words" or be hateful. You stated your understanding of something. You said it was what you had been told. It didn't sound right to me. Thinking about it from your perspective, I wouldn't want you to be misinformed yet again. And I wouldn't want you to inadvertently misinform others as you continue your good efforts to inform. If I caused you to feel attacked I truly am sorry. I am now feeling attacked and misunderstood as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174333506398573874.post-23990139883869045862011-07-22T11:41:46.508-07:002011-07-22T11:41:46.508-07:00as a single i often suffer the same accusations. i...as a single i often suffer the same accusations. i recently was attacked on my own blog as well. unfortunately many of us suffer different situations that are hard for outsiders to understand and instead of trying to understand or just sympathize they place blame or name call. i wish everyone would just ease up on us, we are having a hard enough time!still waitinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04809028195061571821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174333506398573874.post-3559273596456145172011-07-22T09:44:50.678-07:002011-07-22T09:44:50.678-07:00It is the people who spew anonymous hate on the in...It is the people who spew anonymous hate on the internet who are DEFECTIVE. Spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually defective. Oh, and cowards too.Shlomonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174333506398573874.post-85910924133046814262011-07-22T09:35:21.296-07:002011-07-22T09:35:21.296-07:00It's so sad that crotchety anonymous people ha...It's so sad that crotchety anonymous people have stupidly chosen to pick on your words about this sensitive subject.<br /><br />You have done an incredible service for women (and maybe even men) by writing this blog. I know other people who are rooting for you as well. I even know someone who started wearing tampons for the first time thanks to this blog! So thank you from all of us.rmnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174333506398573874.post-79497787606391652552011-07-22T07:49:49.736-07:002011-07-22T07:49:49.736-07:00Guess I made things worse. I do not think at all ...Guess I made things worse. I do not think at all that you are stupid. I do think you were unclear and easily misunderstood. I am sorry I hurt you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5174333506398573874.post-43670913340320968322011-07-22T06:51:51.400-07:002011-07-22T06:51:51.400-07:00I'm not a doctor or an expert on anything, but...I'm not a doctor or an expert on anything, but . . . considering how far you guys have come in such a short time, I think there's every reason to believe you'll have satisfying intercourse. Like many things, it will probably take longer than you think you can bear, and there will be times along the way when your hopes are dashed . . . that is 'normal'. <br />In some ways, I think the hardest part will be to not take the disappointments too seriously. If you feel sad, you'll want to acknowledge that, but I think there will be a lot of moments where you're going to have to shake off the sadness and actively force yourself to be optimistic. It's very hard to do, shaking off the sadness, but if you can manage it, it will make the whole 'journey' more 'fun' . . .<br /><br />You two, together, have already accomplished amazing things, even though they may not seem like much. I've heard a funny phrase: Keep trudging the happy road to destiny . . . keep trudging. You're getting there.<br />-MeiraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com